As should be fairly obvious at this point, I am a Christian. Every week, I encourage the men I meet with every week to pray; to lift up their concerns to the Lord who knows all things. But this past week has been particularly trying for me and I seem to have much to wrestle with regarding the habit of prayer. I often second-guess myself and ask whether I am praying enough. And, yet, we pray.
Valentine's Day. And tomorrow a wedding. What I do not understand is the big fuss everyone makes over Valentine's Day. Stores raise their prices and create an artificial scarcity for goods that would be in great demand, such as toys, flowers, and candies. But does this really mean that the world recognises this day as a day when you celebrate your supposed love or lust for someone?
Considering the culture and the circumstances, people have come to truly and sincerely believe that love can be found in receiving toys, flowers, and candies; or replacing lovers like one replaces tires for their car. Replace them until you sort of think you like what they give. Taking things is not love, that is greed.
Love is a forgotten trait in this day and age. Love has been superseded by lust, and everyone thinks that the feelings of lust already constitutes love. And that is why people "fall out" of love often, and make breaking hearts look so easy. Because they never knew what love is.
Love requires one to give without expecting anything in return. To forgive without expecting to be forgiven. To be patient when the other has no patience. To be kind when the other will only hurt. To remain loyal when they are not. To care when they do not. To be compassionate when they are not. To remember when they forget. To remain when they move away. That is love, and love is not easy. It never was, and it never will be.
We often think that the end of the year is a time to tell ourselves, “this past year was okay, but I promise to do this-and-that next year.” We call those New Year’s Resolutions. And most of us will forget our resolutions by the 3rd of January. Why? Because people are people. People claim that change is the only constant thing, but really, people do not necessarily change. People will still inflict pain and hurt on other people. People will still make promises and break them. People will still make other people more cynical by the way they act.
The last few weeks have been dedicated to character redevelopment for several stories, and here’s something for today: a glimpse at further character development, and something on the importance of contentment
Anna wakes up most mornings angry and disappointed. Why? Because her life is not in order. Because she is not who she expected she would be, or who she wanted herself to be, at least not at this stage of her life. She had around ten things on her to-do list yesterday, and two of those are still unticked, meaning they were not done. Her efforts at achieving her desires, those simple desires that everyone has every day, have all but come undone.
That does not happen daily; some days, she wakes up feeling quite at peace. While most of us would celebrate those days, and she sometimes does, more often than not they serve as reminders for her of all the other days, the days come undone. By sundown, such a peaceful day will be disrupted by the incessant, nagging thought she had pushed to the back of her mind: “Why can’t every day be like today?” And thus she begins piling on the pressure to make tomorrow as good, or preferably better than today, at sunset of the day before tomorrow. She also happens to be a “lists” person. She keeps track of everything. And all of these things end up on a list somewhere, if not on a physical sheet of paper she keeps in her purse, then, at least, in some mental storage space.
The Writer. A fancy title that he granted himself to justify making a blog on whatever it is he thinks of.